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So, as I mentioned briefly I am a part of a Wonderful Organization--Curve Appeal...

I love CA because it affords me the opportunity to be me, beautiful and CURVY...

we are having our Face Camp this weekend... 

There will be countless luscious thick girls taking over the ATL----Got to love it...

as my Psis/Sis Jewell says...

THERE IS ALWAYS A PLUS SIDE....

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The Last few days I have had no desire to do anything...I've literally been in a daze...and I don't know why. My mind is in a thousand places. I am in the process of starting a Consignment shop for Plus Size women(Kurvy Girl Konsignments) which  I know that I am upset over how slow things are moving along due to some financial setbacks, however, this is my DREAM and God has shown me signs that this is my year, so I am being still and trusting him. Love life...We will save that for another day. Fashion--So, I have an event coming up this weekend, Curve Appeal Face Camp(www.pinkcitysisterhood.com)and I have no clothes in the closet that I want to be photographed in that jump out at me, but I've got a very limited budget to devise outfits that will be worthy of all this fabulous essence that is me... Whatever this slump is, I am going to pray on it tonight and wake up refreshed tomorrow so that I can make it happen. I will say that I am excited, my Sis who is an amazing photographer http://www.facebook.com/ararejewelphotography will be taking photos of the Clothing I have for Kurvy Girl Konsignments, I am so loving the name and vision of where it is headed, just have to make sure all of my financial ducks are in a row, so maybe when we do that Wednesday I will feel so much better. Time will tell and we shall see...

My random thought...

I believe in living my life the way I see fit(let me elaborate)...most times I step outside of the lines, however I have no problem with gentle direction stepping back in between the lines drawn...I sometimes talk to loudly, but if you let me know, I'll try to quiet down..(really I will, but often times due to my hearing problem, I don't realized i'm loud at all...lol)...I believe in sometimes carving my own paths...yeah there come times when I can't move any further and I may have to turn around, but I learned something along the journey..Trust me, I did!! There are days when I can be an ANGRY Biiiitch...and other days when I literally am dripping with Sugar(those days aren't often)But, the one thing I've learned in my 34 years is that no matter what, as long as I stay true to myself and remember all of the things my Sweet granny imparted to me before she went home to rest...THEN I KNOW, EVERYTHING ABOUT ME AND ALL THAT I DO IS OK...And for that I have no trouble living as I SEE FIT...

Rachel Pally...You Touched my Spirit....

So, I recently had the pleasure of coming across the Rachel Pally WL Spring Collection...WL or White Label is her line of plus size fashions....There are many pieces that truly spoke to my little Fashion Heart...The above dress...Made me just want to sway to the song that only I can hear... The Jumper...Bless her little designer heart...This Jumper just screams my name...I am sure I will have sweet dreams about it... Full Figured Fashion Done Right...

Big Girl Do's and Don'ts...

So, a few months ago I wrote the following  post on Facebook...I think that now that Spring is here, I need to repost it as well as add to it...

(Repost)SO, I'VE NOTICED LATELY THAT BIG GYRLS HAVE LOST IT...HAVING BEEN A LUSCIOUS AND PLUMP GYRL ALL OF MY ADULT LIFE...I HAD TO LEARN TO DISPLAY MY GOOD'S IN A MANNER THAT WAS SEXY NOT SLOPPY....CLASSY BUT NOT TRASHY...BUT MOST BIG GYRLS IM SEEING NOW A DAYS FEEL LIKE IF I CAN SQUEEZE IN IT THEN ITS SEXY..BUT IT IS NOT....THERE IS NOTHING SEXY ABOUT IT....SO I HAVE DECIDED THAT WHEN I SEE WRONGS BEING DONE, I WILL BE POINTING THEM OUT...WE AS BIG GYRLS HAVE TO STAND TOGETHER....IT IS OK TO BE CLASSY AND SEXY...ACCENTUATE ONE BODY PART AT A TIME...AND PLEASE PLEASE SHOP IN YOUR SIZE....A GOOD FIT MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD.....

NO, NO, AND HELL NO

NOW SEE THIS YOUNG LADY....IM SURE SHE REALLY THOUGHT SHE WAS SEXY WHEN SHE LEFT HOME....WHICH WAS EVIDENT IN HOW SHE PRANCED AROUND....WHAT YOU CANT SEE IS THAT THOSE TIGHTS HAD HOLES RIGHT NEXT TO HER COOCH...AND SHE KNEW SHE WAS WRONG BECAUSE EVERY NOW AND THEN SHE'D MOVE A HOLE....LADIES.... TIGHTS ARE NICE WHEN WORN CORRECTLY... BUT WHEN YOU NEEDA 2X TIGHT DONT GET A XL FROM 5,7,9 STORE AND HAVE YOUR FRIENDS PUSH YOU IN THEM.....SHE KNEW HER BIG ASS NEEDED TO GET A NICE PAIR OF TIGHTS AND A LONGER SHIRT FROM ASHLEY STEWART, LANE BRYANT OR TORRIDS....IF YOU SEE A FRIEND WEARING SOMETHING LIKE THIS...STOP HER AT THE DOOR AND TELL HER TO TURN HER ASS AROUND AND FIND SOMETHING TO WEAR IN  HER SIZE....

(Update)....So, ladies as you can see from the above picture...Please Please do not repeat this trend...also what you cant see is that those tights were practically see through... As the temperature warms up ladies, I know it is our natural habit to want to take some clothes off. I get it, I understand, we've got more body than most so we heat up a little quicker, just remember as I said above One body part out at a time...If you got your cleavage showing and the girls sitting up pretty(I'm known for my girls)...please don't subject us to seeing your butt cheeks...really at no time unless its in a bathing suit should you be out in public with your cheeks hanging out.. If you wore a size 12 last summer and over the winter you've picked up a few pounds...because it happens...and you are now 16...for the love of the Virgin Mary...DON'T squeeze in those 12's...find you a nice Consignment shop to sale the clothes to so that you can get a few key pieces to last until you can purchase further. I will be adding to the BGD&D list all Spring and Summer...Please feel free to leave some of your own...Because as always, US BIG GIRLS HAVE TO STICK TOGETHER...

Ex's=Friends & Really in church....

So, let me just start off by saying that I have the pleasure of being a member of one of the best church's in Atlanta...Yes I said it...lol...Tabernacle Baptist Church....If you are in the A and need a place to worship...Come come....No matter who you are TBC welcomes you...I had to put that out there, but that isn't what this post is about.....TBC hosts a Relationship Series on Wednesdays...Its an open forum and Q&A with Pastor Meredith..It is a time for you to come, discuss issues, share your frustrations, get advice and counseling, there have been Psychologist sit in and give feedback, it is a really great Forum....Well, tonight's topic was left over from last week, because some people had some things  still on their hearts...The first young lady, goes up seemingly very upset over a comment that was made, but it was explained and she was happy and satisfied and she sat down. Well the next young lady had a question in reference to Ex's becoming friends and those new friendships interfering in your current relationship....Things got pretty heated pretty quickly...and I hate because this series is normally broadcast live, however U-Stream seemed to  want to pick a juicy night like tonight to act a donkey....I would normally point you where to read it, however, not the case tonight. So, there were arguments from all, some said it's possible to be friends, some felt other wise...I found it so funny that this was the topic, because on my way to church...I had an interesting conversation with my Ex who has said that I need to run all of my future mates by her so she can give me the thumbs up or down....lol...If she wasn't serious it would almost be comical...So, I guess my questions is--Do you think you can retain a friendship with an ex if you are in a new relationship?


Wait, I'm not done...this is a two part one..lol...


Ok, so as I said this forum is held at my church however it is in the  Kitchen/activity space and not actually in the sancturary, so most people are coming straight from work, or home or from wherever, so some are dressed others are very relaxed, I mean honestly it's a very casual laid back night...Well one of the young ladies that got up to speak at the mic had on some shorts that were the same size as a pair of boy cut underwear with a shirt if I can call it that, because it is really some underwear because I've seen them at Fredericks, lace no back built in bra sits about 2 inches above the waist...so its very very revealing...and yes I know I said it is a very laid back night, however, when she left the house, I am sure she knew she was coming to the Relationship Forum at church, because she's there every week. I wonder did she look at that outfit and say I'm going to be cute in this tonight...As always, there is a time and place for everything, certain fashion statements should not be made in the church, no matter your size or how cute you think you look..I know she was uncomfortable because the entire time that she was talking, she was pulling up her shirt and adjusting her purse to cover her legs....So, that let me know...SHE KNEW THAT OUTFIT WAS TOOOOOOO MUCH...OR RATHER TOOOOOOOO LESS, HOWEVER YOU CHOOSE TO LOOK AT IT...FATHER BLESS US...

A NIGHT OUT...

True Shoe Gasm

DRESSES THAT FLATTER, GIVE ME REASON TO SMILE

The Perfect Outfit for a date...Guess, I need to get the outfit and take myself out...I am a firm believer in the fact that it is ok for a Girl to Dress Up, get in the car and enjoy life...ALL ALONE...

Damn,Damn Pandora...

So, in October I meet someone who I just knew would be my life partner...Things were great...or so I thought...After returning from the Bahamas in February she informed me that, my personality was too aggressive for her, and she didn't like how I handled her...And so to avoid major heart break down the road, we needed to end it now...I was crushed...cried, didn't eat, pretty much when not at work or at the gym, I was home in the bed...Well, a week ago, I got the sign to move forward based on something she did, it was like her actions showed me that, she is not worth it...Well a week goes by and I don't hear from her...Today, she hits me up...and it gets me to thinking..maybe there is some hope of at least salvaging a friendship that could maybe grow in to more...But, I soon put that thought aside..However sitting alone listening to Pandora sway me with songs of love lost, love renewed and new outlooks on love has me thinking again...But, I think I may just need to change my Pandora station...FATHER HELP ME!!!

Don't Wear That...

I love all there is about fashion...The clothes, jewelry, shoes---please don't let me get started on shoes...I could go on for days. I am an honest Thick Girl, I know that everything that is made in a plus size isn't necessarily suited for a plus size girls body...Confidence is fine, but reality and honesty should always come in to play, when picking out an outfit to slip over your frame. My Soror and I spent the day working on our upcoming business ventures, while working she began to tell me about some of her favorite Big Girl/Thick Girl/Fat Girl Bloggers, so many use different terms to describe what they do, however ultimately they all do the same thing, so I wanted to be able to describe all no matter how they market their blog. Well she began to share her disdain for this one Blogger, who seems to have a pretty large following, has even had major retail stores and chains flying her out to give her merchandise and UPLIFT her fashion sense. I at first thought my Soror was exaggerating on her fashion or lack of fashion does and don'ts, then she gave me the website, and I made the mistake of actually spending time looking at the post and pictures... Ok, let me see how to put this---SHE LOOKED A MESS--Blogs very well written, her photos of outfits that she considered in good taste...Not So Good...I would be so happy for her success if she deserved it. First faux pas was the fact that she has advertised herself as a size 18; unless she was 4'0'' she was clearly pushing a 24-26, again, confidence is a PLUS, but walking outside with see through shirts and opaque tights where the shirt doesn't cover all of your body is not a good thing. Shirts with holes and rips and stains, not a good look, Having every outfit appear to be a costume, WHY..there are days when  you want to stand out in your declared fashion Independence, I get it, but looking like you escaped from a bad circus or side show, I don't get it. I'm sure there are some who could say, well who are you to judge her, she is popular among many. I am a Big Girl who has been honest with herself to know there are things I can wear, risks I can take and then there are those, I should avoid at all cost due to my size. She should do the same, she is one of those Plus Size Girls who give us all the reputation of being sloven uncaring lazy people, because that is what she appeared to be, and it isn't just my Soror and I who feel this, I took time to refer her blog to some others, and they all said the same thing...WHO THINKS SHE IS FASHIONABLY COMPETENT TO GIVE IDEAS AND TIPS TO OTHERS...

Where do I start...

Before 2007

After 2008

I am not the most computer literate person...I am the first to admit it..When it comes to Blogs...my knowledge is even less...I will admit that I love to read others blogs, because most often they are so well put together and the ones I subscribe to normally speak to me because I have such a passion for WORDS...Just never thought I'd have anything to say that I'd want to read later and be reminded about...Or that anyone else would want to read...But, a little over a year ago, I went back to Weight Watchers...I say went back because in Late 2007 early 2008 I lost 91 pounds...As you can see from the pictures..Amazing feat right? Yes and NO... Because the more I lost the more my partner pulled away from me...So to salvage a relationship that I secretly new was doomed I gained it back...plus 10 pounds in a matter of a year... As the weight came back with every pound I began to dislike myself...and CLOTHES....And anyone who knows me knows that I love clothes.... But, A year ago I found the strength to drag myself back to Weight Watchers... Its like the Chinese Proverb says, "Failure is not in falling down but refusing to get back up," so I got back up walked in to that meeting and here I am...It has been slow foing this last year I think for 6 months I've lost and gained the same 15 pounds over and over... But, I have managed to keep off 20.9lbs and I'm still going, I know it's not going to come off as easily as I put it back on, and that it will require dedication and work on my part... During this journey again, I have rediscovered my passion for fashion...and my Love of Self through this AMAZING Sisterhood I joined ---Curve Appeal that celebrates the Full Figured Woman and all of her CURVES...So, this will be a place for me to share my ups and downs and highs and lows to my weight loss as well as my love renewed in regards to Fashion.... Hopefully, anyone who stumbles across my Blog will find joy in the words I post share some encouraging words, offer some advise...especially when I'm having those self pity days...Because a girl still has those days where I get in my feeling and it's hard to climb out....